I think that your doctor is right! As a caregiver, you are at greater risk than others of becoming unwell. Most of the research on the health of caregivers has focused on psychological well-being, specifically anxiety. One study that I’m familiar with revealed that anxiety was a major factor for 17.5 percent of caregivers, compared to 10.9 percent within the general population. Anxiety can do all sorts of things to you. The biggest impact is an embattled immune system. Research has shown that viral illnesses last longer in caregivers than in control subjects. So do something to minimize your worry!

If you are comfortable with the idea, Cathy, I would lean on your doctor or any other trusted person who normally deals with this kind of issue. Have him or her give you a hand with coping strategies – it sounds like worry has got you down, and you will have to find ways to stop worrying. This could mean having an outlet such as a brisk daily walk or ten minutes of meditation or prayer. It could mean working through your worry and figuring out what is at its root – is it the fear that your husband is not long for this world, financial issues or something else. It may be that the burden of care is too great for just you, and that you will have to get help in to allow you the time you need for yourself. Whatever it is, you have to find solutions and find peace with yourself.

Your role as a caregiver is very important, but it’s not worth compromising your health for. Good luck!