You're not alone! The majority of working caregivers have had to make some sort of adjustment to their work schedule--coming in late or leaving early; cutting back to part-time; passing up promotions. Some even have to take leaves of absence from time to time.

What can you do?

Openly and honestly describe the situation to your employer before it becomes a problem.

Let your employer know that you are committed to your job. Make sure they know that you don't want to let them down.

Focus on what your employer needs. Think about how you can work together during this difficult time.

Be realistic. If your position involves meeting with clients, asking to work evenings is not realistic. On the other hand, if you are making sales calls by phone, you may be able to telecommute from a home office.

Some employers have programs to help caregiving employees. You may have the option of flex-time or compressed work weeks. Or they may offer brown-bag "lunch and learn" seminars on topics like Alzheimer's or how to balance caregiving and a career.

In addition, employers may offer enhanced resource and referral programs or even geriatric care manager services to help employees with complex home situations. One example of this type of service offered through an Employee Assistance Program (EAP) is Senior Care Select. Please click here to learn more.

At a minimum, the Human Resources person should be able to describe what existing employee benefits may help you to balance your job and your caregiving responsibilities. Caregiving can be overwhelming. Make sure your own needs are looked after so you can meet the needs of your loved one.